Dating tips 101 for ‘older’ people
“Help!! I’m newly single at 50 and wondering: how do people this age date? I’m thinking I am too old to find someone.” Or, “The dating scene has changed sooo much since the 80s. How do I navigate it?” Or, “Thinking I’m gonna be single forever. Middle-age love is almost impossible to find!!!”
In the last few months since I’ve been a Medium member (and author) I’ve read a number of articles by people 40-plus who are saying kinda the same thing. One story’s title was “How Do Old People Date?” which I bristled at a little because the writer was 50 and I am a few steps past that. But I quickly got over being bristly about it and forgave her. It’s perfectly understandable that women are taking turning 50 pretty hard (or 40, or whatever age) because of western society’s emphasis on youth, youthful “beauty,” vigor, and desirability. Even though it’s obvious if one pays attention, that there are plenty of attractive, active, fit, smart and engaging “older” people out there. They just might get passed over in the dating pool because of crow’s feet and a gray hair or two. Getting past the fact that some of us now have a few extra pounds or gray hair or whatever might be one way to actually find someone, if one wants to find love — or companionship, or a one-night hookup — in the “middle ages.”
