More than 10 years ago I dated a man who did ALL these things. But by the time I figured “this is sooooo not right: there’s definitely something wrong with him" and tried to break it off, he showed his physically abusive side.
Long story short, he was the textbook definition of narcissistic psychopath (which was combined with his addiction to meth), the type of people who need to be locked up much longer than the measly prison sentence he received.
I share this is a warning to others that these behaviors COULD be a sign that the other person is potentially dangerous/abusive/homocidal. Pay attention to the signs.
Thanks for publishing this, E.B.!!