Lessons Learned From Having Been Married, Then Divorced, I Want To Share With Others
You, your potential spouse. and any future children may be glad you read this
“The great marriages are partnerships. It can’t be a great marriage without being a partnership.” — Helen Mirren, actor
So you’ve found someone you want to “settle down with” in the traditional sense of getting married. Good for you!!! Let me offer heartfelt congratulations! The giddy happiness, deep passion, the “head-over-heels” feeling of walking on air when you see/hear/think of him or her … all are wonderful feelings that everyone deserves to feel.
To those of you contemplating making your relationship a legally-binding commitment that one expects will last their lifetime, I would like to offer — along with lots of good wishes — a few points to ponder. Not as a marriage counselor, but as a divorced women who is rather observant, who loves to watch people and their behavior, and is an avid, long-time student of psychology …. a woman who has been watching and participating in relationships for — well, let’s just say many, many years.
It is from these observations of numerous other couples, married and not, along with my own two experiences of marriage, that I gleaned the following pieces of advice that people might want to chew on before they book…